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Be a Great Flirt: Dealing with rejection

by Sam van Rood

A tough rejection can really sting you for days afterwards. If it was from someone you fancied, the temptation is to run over it in your head, talking to yourself about where it went wrong, and then you are just re-living the pain over and over again.

Rejection is going to happen, it is part of the flirting game. Maybe the person you are trying to get eye contact with won’t fancy you. Perhaps you will get a green light, start flirting, and then find there is no chemistry. Possibly you only get a few replies from your internet dating. Often you might end up going out on a couple of dates and then things don’t go so well. Rejection is there, and if you are going to have any success in flirting, you are going to have to handle some rejection along the way.

We have pain for a reason. Emotional pain can warn us that we are doing something emotionally uncomfortable, and try to stop us from repeating the same thing over and over again.

For some things, a certain amount of emotional discomfort is part of the package. To look at it another way, it is something you have to go through to get what you want. After all, you will be meeting an interesting new person, you might even find a long-term partner, or a short-term fling. At least when flirting, you will make the other person and yourself feel good.


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