by Sam van Rood
The most powerful flirting tool of all is listening. Most people think they are good listeners but very few of us really are. People love to talk about themselves – it makes them feel special and cared for – so give the person you’re flirting with your whole attention.
Men should avoid corny chat-up lines. Start instead with a neutral remark, such as something about the weather. Also use widgets, which are remarks relating to the here and now, either personal or impersonal.
Women can use the same techniques as men but that can make them look too sexually available. Instead they could ask for information or advice as a way of getting started.
Once the conversation gets going it is the man’s job to close the deal and his aim is to get the woman’s contact details. The woman needs to make her interest blindingly obvious, but even so men often misread the signals. Suggest doing something fun together, picking up on anything she’s already mentioned, and if she doesn’t seem keen then that’s a clear sign – time to move on, with no harm done.
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