by Sam van Rood
Basic flirting rules are that the woman does the choosing, but once she has signalled her choice she sits back and lets the man make the move. A woman signals her choice by making eye contact. Doing this once is an orange light, twice is a green light. Don’t miss the moment by focusing too hard on her body – look at her face so you catch the eye contact.
Once you have that green light it’s up to you to move things forward, but don’t invade her personal space – start flirting at about arm’s length. Remember that corny chat-up lines don’t work, so keep the first remark neutral – something about the weather for instance. Also use widgets. An impersonal widget is a remark about the place or situation you are in, for example in a bus queue you might say, ‘It was an hour late yesterday’. A personal widget is a little more risky as it moves things on quickly, but something like, ‘Love those earrings!’ is worth a try.
Your aim is to get contact details, but don’t push too hard. Chat for a while, then pick up on her interests and suggest doing something connected – if she says no, she isn’t interested, so bail out quickly.
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